How do I get my kids out of the door without any fuss?
The answer is by creating a calm morning routine.
We all have those hideous mornings where we stagger into school looking like we’ve just been dragged through a hedge backwards, nerves in tatters and ready to cry.
What is the reason for these hideously chaotic mornings?
It can be anything from
- missing shoes
- missing keys
- someone refusing to put their clothes on
- someone not wanting to put a coat on in mid winter
- someone refusing to eat their breakfast
- refusing to get in the car
- refusing to get their seat belt on
- refusing to get their seat belt off
- refusing to get out of the car………
Etc etc, but mostly its all of the above, every single morning !
So what can we do to stop these major meltdowns and non compliant mood swings?
Nothing ! Nothing?
Yes, you heard it nothing! We can do nothing to get these little people of ours to be more responsive to our many orders to get them out of the door , this will only fall into place as they get out of this ridiculously stubborn phase.
But , we can however smooth out the wrinkles in our morning routine to try to get us into a position to have the time and patience to face these tantrum filled mornings head on, a sort of head start on the kids!
Try these few simple steps to get your kids out of the door with less fuss.
Lay it out the night before!
This means everything!
Here is a list of what I lay out the night before;
- plates/ cutlery/ cups
- School bags with books /homework inside!
- PE kits
- swimming kits
- forms /letters /money need for next day
- drinks bottles ready to be filled
- uniform including shoes upstairs
- my clothes and shoes
- lunch boxes made up and in the fridge
The secret is to not allow anyone down stairs unless they are fully dressed including their shoes.
This eliminates both the
- last-minute lost shoe palava
- shoe refusal episode
so, that’s two arguments prevented already!
It also makes the holidays and weekends special as they get to have a few hours in their pyjamas before getting dressed.
No TV or tablets!
Imagine you’re a child , what better way to start your morning than to zone out watching TV.
Imagine how cozy and relaxed you are.
Now imagine being dragged outside to work on a cold winter morning in the middle of your favourite game or TV programme .
Make it easy for yourself leave the TV and tablets for relaxing !
This might be a difficult habit to break but stay strong the rewards are endless.
Make sure there are toys, books or art equipment to relieve their boredom!
Get up earlier than the kids.
I appreciate this is probably impossible for the majority of mums and dads out there . With all the little early risers and the light sleepers there are very few parents who are up before their kids, but if you can , when you can , try to get up before the rest of the house wakes.
This gives you time to get organised, get showered and dressed to your shoes and get any chores such as emptying the dishwasher or doing a laundry load uninterrupted which in turn makes you calmer and ready to face the barrage of demands that ensue the minute your kids open their eyes!
I’m always amazed at how much calmer I am when I get that rare time to get ahead in the morning and maybe even get time for a coffee!
I’m currently writing this post at 5.30am while everyone else is asleep!
Keep a weekly planner of all the kid’s after school activities, play dates, and in school activities and check it every evening.
You can download a free copy of all my beautiful family planners here FREE PRINTABLE PLANNER PAGES.
Make sure everything is ready for them to take into school or ready to grab straight after school.
I try to get all sports kits ready for the whole week as soon as they dirty they are washed and packed back into their bags for next time.
I keep sports kits in distinctive bags in the kid’s wardrobe and get them to bring what they need down the night before, this makes them have some responsibility for the stuff they need on certain days which means they know what they need, when they need it if on the rare occasion I am ever ill or I forget!
- swimming kit
- PE kit
- football kit
- musical instruments
- spare clothes for playdate/sports events
- snacks /drinks needed
- money for activities
If you as a parent minimise the many things which can go wrong and reduce some of the chaos you will find yourself in a position to deal with the tantrums and the obstinate behaviour in a calm and level-headed manner.
If your little one knows he doesn’t get his breakfast until he is dressed he will get dressed as a routine as soon as he gets up , every morning !
Stick to a routine every morning so your little ones know what to expect and there are no surprises, when they have a little bit of control of their mornings via a planned routine they know what to expect and stop trying to control the situation themselves.
Make sure your child is asleep early on a school night as a tired child is often a grumpy non compliant child !
If you liked this post you may like to download my FREE printable routines checklist.
Check out these amazing learning toys!
For free checklists and more leave your details below !
- How I Stopped My Child From Hitting.
- Why I Allow My Kids To Be In Control Of Their Own Snacks.
- How I Got My Kids To Love Eating Vegetables.
- My Secret Tip To keep School Paperwork Organised!
- Is It Finally Time To Unplug And Slow Our Kids Down?
For further reading on parenting in a calm and simplified way you may like the website Simplicity Parenting.
The Organizer UK is a participant in the Amazon EU Associates Programme, an affiliate advertising programme designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.co.uk these small fees enable me to cover the costs of running this blog.